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Dear %$firstname$%,
Welcome to Issue #2 of The New Post Vibe. Take a few moments after you listen to the short audio and just breathe.
Try to be mindful of what you hear, smell or taste and feel. We talk a lot about mindfulness, but it's not
really about talking, more about being. In fact, do this a few times each day at least. Especially when you
see red flags in your mind warning you of coming disregulation in either yourself, your spouse or your child.
We look forward to more of your comments about what is being offered here and
what you would like to see. Please send your comments, questions and feedback to
david@postinstitute.com. Editorial feedback may also be printed in our newsletters. So, let us know what you think-good or bad.
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Bryan Post
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Featured Audio:
Michael Ray Dresser interviews Bryan Post on the groundbreaking material presented in The Great Behavior Breakdown (22 minutes).
"The Great Behavior Breakdown addresses the most difficult behaviors that parents can face.
It gives parents an eye-opening and heart-opening understanding of the causes of these behaviors,
and a practical way to work with them that puts the focus on strengthening the relationship rather
than trying to control the behavior.
Like the best medicine, it addresses the root
problems and not just the symptoms. We all love our children, but making that love real in the
eye of the storm can be extremely challenging.
This book will teach you about your own stress reactions, and how you can respond more effectively
to your children from your own inner strength with compassionate understanding, rather than
reacting out of your fear."
– Myla Kabat-Zinn, co-author of Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting
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Returned Russian Boy Part 2
by Bryan Post
A comment on Washington Post article Saturday, April 10, 2010
In the last newsletter I wrote that the orphanage did not lie to the parents. Many of you took
offense to that statement. I always find our reactive natures much more interesting than the subject we
are reacting too. After you read that line about the orphanage not lying to the parents, did you notice
if that caused a stir for you? I'm curious. Perhaps it didn't; perhaps it did, I just wonder if you
noticed it. Mindfulness is very important.
Now why did I say that the orphanage didn't lie? Because it is to the best of my knowledge true. How many orphanages are ...
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On Mindfulness
by Bryan Post
The other day while out in the wilderness attending training for some
of our new in-home counselors, it began to rain. For some time I paid little attention to the rain
itself and just sort of observed the greater scene, but after a while I began to focus on the rain,
not on it raining, and it was a spectacularly peaceful experience.
What's the difference? When focusing on it raining, one merely pays
attention to the picture, and the picture typically becomes the background scenery to the other
thoughts flooding
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Review of The Great Behavior Breakdown
Review written by Jackie Grimes (adoptive parent)
From Adoption Today U.K. April 2010 www.adoptionuk.org.uk.
I have been a fan of Bryan Post for many years now and have read all
his previous books. His new book takes his particular approach to adoptive parenting and repackages it
in a way that is more accessible to parents than some of his previous work.
The book is split into two parts. The first deals with Bryan Post's
overall theories while the second applies these to common problems experienced by adoptive parents. So
you would read the first section to get an idea of his philosophy and beliefs and then refer to the
relevant chapters to see how this would work in practice with ... Read the full article here.
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Questions & Answers
Q.
Dear Bryan — Brad came to me at seven months old. He didn't cry, didn't laugh, made no sounds at all,
no eye contact, couldn't sit up or reach for toys, couldn't roll over. It was thought that he had a
severely limited mental capacity. Brad is now seven and we are struggling with pooping, peeing, and
smearing. When he soils himself he says he is stupid, hits himself, and says that I hate him, even though
I reassure him that those things aren't true. I hug him and tell him how much I love him after these
episodes. He has started hiding his soiled underwear so I have provided him with a closable bucket and
shown him how to wash them out. I feel that he needs to take some level of responsibility for the
clean-up because he is seven and quite capable of caring for his own cleanliness. Pooping and smearing
are not acceptable behaviors no matter what the cause and cause and effect are very important skills to
have life long. I am not negative to him when he smears, I just explain that he needs to take ownership
and my message to him is that making difficult messes doesn't take away anger. My goal is to model
appropriate behavior, state my expectations, and then allow him to figure out how to meet the expectations.
– Denise in North Carolina
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Dear Denise — This is a difficult situation to address because it is challenging to help parents awaken to
a deeper understanding of what is going on with their child. A child who has been grossly neglected and
abused (maybe sexually abused) has a reason to poop and smear. Should he really have to take ownership of
a behavior that stems from the violent and neglectful acts committed upon him by an adult? Should he have
to take responsibility for this behavior before he is able to work through the root issues?
Pooping and smearing are not okay, but parents ... Read the full article here.
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From the Dean: A Reflection on time, new programs and new ways to learn.
by David Strainick
Dean of Online Learning Center and Curriculum Developer
It's been one year since we came home from Ukraine with our adopted
13-yr-old daughter and the challenges we've had in trying to parent her have been, at times,
overwhelming. When I saw the story about the woman who sent her son back to Russia I thought, "how
could anyone do that?" and then ten minutes later I'm in a screaming match with my daughter about
something silly and thinking I want to send her back or why did we do this? Of course, we are thankful
that we have Bryan and the Post Institute at our finger tips ... Read the full article here.
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Inner Space — The Final "Final Frontier"
by David Durovy
 We have heard the phrase "space, the
final frontier" echoing on our television screens for years announcing the start of a Star Trek adventure.
Although I don’t think that creator Gene Rodenberry knew it, he was right — except for the direction. It is
not outer but inner space that is the final frontier, at least for human beings (not human doings remember).
The therapeutic process has known this for eons of course; as did the ancient oracle at Delphi in Greece which had engraved in its stone arches the words, "Know Thyself." There
are also Biblical references to "inward" directions (The kingdom of heaven is within for example) as well
as wisdom from the East ... Read the full article here.
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